A recent survey of Dutch children aged 10 to 15 has revealed that half of them occasionally encounter online posts that frighten or upset them—and many choose to keep these experiences to themselves. Despite the prevalence of distressing content on social media platforms, a significant number of youngsters are reluctant to discuss what they see with parents or guardians.
Distressing content goes unreported
The study, conducted among more than 1,200 pupils across the Netherlands, found that:
- 49% have witnessed posts containing violence or hate speech that left them unsettled.
- 43% admitted they never mention these encounters to their parents.
- 30% said they fear adults would overreact or limit their online access if they knew.
Why children stay silent
- Fear of causing worry: Many kids believe sharing upsetting content will only make their parents anxious or angry.
- Desire for independence: Adolescents often prefer to handle emotional challenges on their own.
- Uncertain whom to trust: Some feel closer to friends or older siblings than to their parents when it comes to online issues.
Mental health professionals warn that bottling up these experiences can intensify feelings of anxiety and isolation. “When children feel they can’t turn to their parents, they’re at greater risk of internalizing trauma,” explains clinical psychologist Dr. Marijke van Dijk.
Encouraging open dialogue
In response to the findings, schools and youth organizations are stepping up efforts to foster safer digital environments and stronger communication channels between parents and children. Workshops on digital literacy and emotional resilience are being rolled out in primary and secondary schools, aiming to:
- Equip youngsters with tools to identify and cope with harmful content.
- Provide parents with strategies to discuss online experiences without judgment.
- Promote peer support networks where children can share concerns freely.
The Ministry of Education has also announced a nationwide awareness campaign this autumn, urging families to engage in regular conversations about social media use and emotional well-being. Experts hope these initiatives will break the silence and ensure children feel supported when facing upsetting online material.
